This past year I went through a difficult time, emotionally and mentally. I like to call it my “early existential crisis.” I was at a crossroads where I realized I didn’t want to pursue becoming a lawyer, and I was overwhelmed with all the possibilities of what else I could do with my life.
While constantly thinking of all the career options I could pursue and directions I could take my life, I started to think “what’s the point of it all?” and fell into a mind-consuming, unproductive trap. I had no motivation or desire to do most things, and there were even days where I didn’t want to get out of bed because it felt pointless to me.
In a society where you’re expected to graduate college and jump into the workforce with the intention of knowing what you want to do with your life, not knowing what you really want to do is intimidating and sometimes demoralizing, to say the least. When everyone around you *seems to* have it all figured out, it’s easy to feel out of touch and left behind. It’s especially frustrating when family members and friends ask you what you’re doing with your life, and you feel like you need to provide an impressive answer to avoid getting judged, when in reality you’re feeling stuck and unsure.
While experiencing these mind-consuming doubts and insecurities, I’ve come to realize that it’s okay to doubt yourself, question your interests, actions, and decisions, and take a little extra time to find your path. I’ve realized that this is how you grow as a person, and although uncomfortable, pain is what makes us stronger and more resilient. I’ve become a more patient person through my own experience, and I understand myself better than ever. I’m still indecisive about my career at this moment in my life, but I’ve learned to trust myself and let things unfold in their own time.
For many people in their twenties, going through a career limbo phase is not a bad thing, even though it’s usually accompanied with stigma. I think it should actually be viewed as a blessing. Your options are open, you haven’t fully committed yourself to a career, and you have the freedom to explore anything you are curious about. All you have to do is think about this stage of your life as an opportunity and do your best to avoid thinking negatively, and then start making moves. Learn as much as you can from every experience, and don’t take anything for granted. Just be patient and keep moving forward.
Born in Ukraine and raised in Chicago, Iryna takes pride in her Ukrainian roots. She loves writing, cooking (and eating) all kinds of food, pursuing new fitness trends, and exploring all things related to personal growth. She hopes this blog brings you value in one way or another and helps you to become a better version of you.